Thursday, March 21, 2019

Secret APPS

Teenagers are naturally drawn to secretive behaviors. It's all about finding their own voice and testing their independence. You were there once, remember? As a parent, your challenge is to find a balance between allowing them to be independent and respecting their privacy while also keeping them safe.
And with teens' ever-present smartphones and smart devices, it's even harder to monitor what they do, who they talk to and sites they visit online. The scary part is that there are apps your teenagers and younger kids can use to post and read inappropriate content, arrange to meet strangers, spend your money and see adults and other kids doing, well, all sorts of things that should be restricted to adults.
Here are 10 apps that teenagers and younger kids are using that you may not know about it. If you spot any of these apps on your child's phone, it may be time to have a frank discussion with them about dangers lurking on apps, while reminding them of the good things they can do with apps.

The secret apps you need to look for

This app has become a place where kids are bullied and bully others. That's unfortunate because it's intended to help kids make friends with people who share their interests and hobbies.
The problem is that it sets your kids up to meet strangers, as do a lot of these apps. They can easily be lulled into thinking a stranger who shares their interests, and who understands them, is a friend they'd like to meet in person.
This is a gaming app where your kids can chat with other gamers. That sounds like a fun and safe thing to do, and it can be.
But you may know that multiplayer video games, in general, can create a competitive and sometimes nasty environment. In other words, there's a lot of bullying that could be too intense for teenagers and young kids.


This app is geared to adults and older teenagers with lots of talk about sex and drinking. That doesn't mean it's appropriate for your kids, no matter their age.
It's also geared toward group chats, as its name suggests. It's easy to add people from your contact list, so one stranger your kid chats with can lead to another, more dangerous stranger.

Unlike a lot of these apps, Holla doesn't really have any good reason for being, at least not for non-consenting adults. It randomly matches your kids with complete strangers by video chat.
Worse, your kids can set it up to know their location, so strangers can hook up with them. The problem is that it's intended to be used by adults but it's easy for anyone of any age to use.
There's a terrifying reason that Kik may sound familiar to you. It's the messaging app used by 13-year-old Nicole Lovell to meet the person who killed her.
Nicole's murder was profiled on CBS's real-life crime series, "48 Hours." Hopefully, her story will help save the lives of other teenagers.
You've heard about dating apps and "hook-up" apps like Tinder, where adults meet potential mates and sexual partners. Apps that you probably haven't heard of, like MeetMe, are widely used by teenagers who put in fake birthdays to gain access to adult-only sexual situations.
What's even scarier with MeetMe and similar apps is that your teenager can let it track their location. The idea is to meet up with people near you, which could introduce your kid to "hook-up" meetings that could be deadly.
Socratic Math & Homework Help
If you're like a lot of parents, you've learned to love Echo's voice-activated assistant Alexa and the video site YouTube. They each have loads of helpful information - and answers - when your kids and you are struggling to figure out answers.
That's a good thing and so is the homework-helper app Socratic Math & Homework Help. The problem is that it's too easy for kids to cheat their way through homework. This app provides answers without walking kids through the steps, so they don't actually have to learn anything when they're getting the answers. Not what their teacher hand in mind when they assigned homework.
Secret Calculator
You have to know about Secret Calculator and similar apps. Your teenagers and young kids aren't using it to chat with people.
They use it to trick you. It looks like a calculator app, which you'd be happy to see them using, but it's simply hiding content that they don't want you to see and it's locked behind a password.
What kind of content? Photos of others - and themselves - that they don't want you to see, and more. It's ripe for misuse.
You may have heard about Snapchat - it's a messaging app similar to Facebook Messenger that is not unto itself a bad app. Heck, you might use it talk to your kids when they're not home.
The problem with Snapchat and many of the apps they're using is that it gives them a lot of anonymity and freedom that they don't have in real life. They can share and see adult-only content and have X-rated conversations with friends and strangers.
Snapchat's game-changing feature is that your kids' video messages disappear after the recipients reads them. Poof, gone! Except, there are ways around that, like taking a screenshot that can haunt your child into adulthood.
We recently warned you about the dark side of TikTok. It's an enormously popular and fast-growing app that can be a platform for bad behavior.
The China-based app is geared to young people and its intended purpose is a good one. It encourages kids to have fun lip-syncing and posting original content.
The concern is that this short-video-sharing app is all about being popular and gaining followers. That has led lots of young people to post mature content and sexual images.
Watch out for these apps, and have a frank talk with your child about the risks
Stay Safe!

Provided by kmndo

Friday, May 11, 2018

What is a student to do?

You are being bullied.
You are sad, mad and don’t know what to do.

Cry, bring a knife to school, or hurt yourself.  These are the common choices.  Or do nothing and let it get worse.  Days, weeks and months creep by.  It gets worse, then betterbut almost always worse again.  Before you realize it years have gone by and you wasted all your negative emotion and feel worse than ever.

I have a reccomendation.
Martial arts.
Not the “karate kid” martial arts, not kung fu panda martial arts but a school that will improve your confidence, teach you how to fight and maybe even help someone else who is worse off than you.  Shop around, look at all the schools in your area and ask for help.

Karate saved my life.  It could save yours.
‘Mike Bogdanski
America’s Anti bully

Friday, March 9, 2018

Father of a bully takes action

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A father advocated for “old school parenting” in several Facebook videos that show his 10-year-old running to school after he says the boy was kicked off the bus for bullying.

Bryan Thornhill drove behind his 10-year-old son the morning of March 1, as the boy ran through the rain to school.
“Welcome to ‘you better listen to your dad 2018,’” said Thornhill in q facebook video.
Thornhill explained the 10-year-old got kicked off his school bus for three days because he was “being a little bully.”
The father said his son has had to run to school, which is about one mile from the family home, as a result. He added he made the boy run in the rain because he was rude that morning.
In the video, Thornhill refers to the punishment as “old school, simple parenting” and says it’s improved the 10-year-old’s behavior.
“Ironically, since he’s been running to school this week, his behavior’s been much better. Teachers have approved of his behavior this week. He hasn’t gotten in trouble this week, where last week, he was just absolutely out of his mind,” Thornhill said.

What do you think?

Saturday, November 5, 2016

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Friday, September 18, 2015

Facebook Is Now Adding a "Dislike" Button

            "A Dislike" button!

Wow, we have been waiting patiently as facebook fans to finally get the option to slam something on Facebook with the click of our cursor.

But, what will happen? Who will yield this as a weapon of destruction?  On social media this is just another opportunity to put people down.  Making fun of a comment, saying disrespectful tirades on aa post or photo has always been easy and now Facebook will simplifythe idea for the new social putdown. This button will fuel the fire of Facebook drama in the easily influenced teen crowd who lives on the internet.

We do have option.

  1. I can ignore it.
  2. I can comment (and stir it up)
  3. I can comment and praise
  4. I can remove the comment
  5. I can unfriend the idiot poster.
And now a "dislike" button.  It will be it's very own soap opera.

Mike Bogdanski
America's ANTI Bully


Wednesday, August 19, 2015

5 Back To School Cyberbully Tips

With the start of school rapidly approaching, parents have a lot on their mind. And with the proliferation of cell phones and tablets at school students and their parents are facing bullying and cyberbullying like never before. Here are five ways to prevent cyberbullying in the back-to-school time of year.

1. Know what's on the phone

Knowing what apps are on your child's phone is key to preventing cyberbullying.
 Ask questions about how the apps are used and what they are used for.
If you don't know what an icon is, ask your kids to tell you about it. 

2. Be the parent – not the friend

School is a tough time for some kids and guidance is the primary role of the parent.  Parents must set some parameters.  
Not their buddy, not their friend, not their pal, just their parent,
We hold their hand crossing the street, make sure they brush their teeth and now we have to see who is talking to them on the internet.

3. Teach empathy

Empathy is walking is someone's shoes.  WE need to teach kids about how much bullying hurts.  Especially the anonymous kind on the internet.
Teaching your child to be empathetic will allow them to walk in that person's shoes and feel their pain if they are being bullied.

4. Encourage social activities

Anything connected to the internet is a big part of the cyberbullying problems,  Laptops, Ipads, xbox and cell phones all connect us.
Many kids who are seen as loners and seem isolated tend to apear vulnerable and are targets to be picked on. Get your kids involved with clubs, groups or sports teams to make sure they have a strong social network.  They need to feel included.
If active socializing isn't for your kid, parents can work to build up the child's self-esteem and resiliency.
Loners probably want to be part of a group and need to be encouraged to build their social skills.

5. Be the role model

Children learn primarily from their parents and the adults in their life. What you do speaks louder than what you say.  Show empathy in life and point it out when you see it.
Parents can point out characters in tv shows, articles in the newspaper or even on cartoons where empathy and helping a person can be highlighted.

Sunday, January 4, 2015


There are a number of ways through which bullying can be addressed. Changing the culture of a school community takes a multiple level approach. I am a big fan of motivational quotes to inspire myself and others.  Quotes can be used to encourage both the bully and the victim to take a different perspective altogether in addressing bullying.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
Always be a first rate version of yourself, instead of a second rate version of somebody else – Judy Garland
Conformity is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth – John F. Kennedy
Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact – William James
It is our choices that show what we truly are far more than our abilities – J.K Rowling

You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection – The Buddha

To thine own self be true – William Shakespeare
To go against the dominant thinking of your friends of most of the people you see every day is perhaps the most difficult act of heroism you can perform
No one can give you better advice than yourself – Cicero

Most of the shadows of life are caused by standing in your own sunshine – Ralph Waldo Emerson
I say NO to the demands of the world, I say YES to the longings of your own heart – Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Nothing can bring you peace but yourself – Ralph Waldo Emerson

He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened – Lao Tzu
It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open and remove all doubt – Mark Twain
The human race has one really effective weapon and that is laughter – Mark Twain
Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city – George Burns

Mike Bogdanski
America's ANTI Bully